FirstLight Basic Access

Men's Community Membership

This course is for all Men's Community Members. Here you will find the information you need to begin and continue your journey with FirstLight including links to access check-in meetings.

Subscribe $36.00 / month

Course curriculum

1. Copyright Notice: 2025 FirstLight Ministries
2. Men's Director Welcome
3. READ THIS FIRST: Your First Month In the FirstLight Men’s Community
4. Grievance Policy
5. Discontinuing Membership
6. How to Update Billing
1. Men's Calendar
2. Men's Monthly Dinner
3. David Respite
1. Check-In Meetings at a Glance
2. Virtual Check-In Meetings
3. In-Person Check-In Meetings
4. Checklist for Starting a New Check-In Meetings
1. An Overview to Checking In
2. Sobriety
3. Sobriety Notes for Married Men
4. Emotions
5. Self-Care
6. More on Self-Care
7. Connecting with Others
8. Common Mistakes About Reaching Out
9. Identifying and Expressing Needs
10. Is Sex a Need?
11. Gratitude
1. Stage 1 Group & Cohort
2. Stage 2 & 3 Interest Forms
3. Stage 2 Metaphor | Weeding the Garden
4. Stage 3 Groups
1. A Word on Sexual Healing
2. Being Known
3. God's Love and Joy
4. Self-Compassion
5. Taking Responsibility and Rigorous Honesty
6. Stages of Recovery
7. Gospel-Driven Sexuality
8. Willingness
9. Common False Beliefs
1. Practicing the Presence of God Introduction
2. Breath and God's Presence
3. Finding Quiet
4. Attunement to Your Body
5. God as Our Refuge
6. Cultivating a Deeper Awareness
7. Bringing Emotions Before God
1. Four Daily Practices for Stability and Support
2. On Keeping a Journal Part 1
3. On Keeping a Journal Part 2
4. On Keeping a Journal Part 3
5. Gratitude Journal
6. Using your Emotions Card
7. Attention Exercise
8. Preventing Relapse Plan (PRP), Part 1
9. PRP, Part 2
10. PRP, Part 3
11. Relapse and Motive
12. Learning from a Relapse
13. Processing a Relapse
14. Guide to Technology - Part 1 of 3 | Restraints, Guardrails, and Safe Travel
15. Guide to Technology - Part 2 of 3 | Principles for Building a Plan
16. Guide to Technology - Part 3 of 3 | Building Your Plan
17. FANOS - A Tool for Couples
18. Daily Sobriety Renewal
19. Short Share Instructions
20. Short Share - A Sample
1. Point Man Overview
2. Rules and Guidelines
3. Best Practices
4. Seeking A Point Man
5. Discipleship Agreement & Reading List
6. Support for Point Men
7. Receiving a Man's Sexual History
8. Register your Point Man/Journey Man
1. How do I find a Point Man?
2. What Makes a Good Point Man?
3. Are you serious about 90 meetings in 90 days?
4. Should I expect FirstLight to be my Church?
5. Why Go to A Therapist? Part 1
6. Why Go to A Therapist? Part 2 - A Representative Story
7. How Do I Find A Therapist?
8. Why on the Internet?
9. What is Healthy Sexuality Anyway?
1. Shame Cycle Overview
2. Transformation Cycle Overview
3. Shame Cycle - Tom's Story
4. Restoration Plan - Shame Scripts
5. Self in the Transformation Cycle - Tom's Story
6. Destabilizers, Preoccupation/Fantasy, and Self-Awareness/Compassion
7. Rituals and Pursuing Wholeness
8. Automatic Negative Thoughts vs. Bringing our Minds to Christ
9. Ritual
10. Pursuing Wholeness
11. Pursuing Wholeness - What Can Meet That Need?
12. Pursuing Wholeness - Make Plans
13. A Note for Married Men
14. A Warning Against Replacement Addictions
15. Shame Cycle - Acting Out
16. Transformation Cycle - Contentment
17. Transformation Cycle - Play as Part of Contentment
18. Shame Cycle - Regret
19. Transformation Cycle - Contentment and Gratitude
20. Deepening Connection: Check-In Meetings
1. PRP Template
2. Support Team
3. Meetings
4. Self-Care Plan
5. Destabilizers
6. Tech Concerns
7. Abstinence
8. Relapse Response Plan
1. How Do I Know When I’m Ready to Enroll in Stage 1?
2. Introduction to Week 1 of Stage 1
3. 1-0 | Enrollment Note
4. 1-1 | For Married Men plus a Strong Warning
5. 1-2 | How Group Works, Part 1
6. 1-2.5 | How Group Works, Part 2
7. 1-3 | The Importance of Story in Sexual Discipleship
8. 1-4 | Review and Reflect | For Further Reading
1. 1-1 | To the Point: Who is On Your Team?
2. 1-2 | To the Point: Go To Meetings And Get a Point Man!
3. 1-3 | To the Point: Humility Towards Your PM!
4. 1-4 | To the Point: Honest, Daily Calls
5. 1-5 | To the Point: Deciding What to Say "No" To
6. 1-6 | To the Point: Sharing Your Sexual History with Your Point Man
7. 1-7 | To the Point: Dissolving the Discipleship Agreement as a Journey Man
8. 1-8 | To the Point: When Your Point Man Asks to Dissolve the Discipleship Agreement with You
9. 1-9 | To the Point: How a Point Man Can Help Say Yes to the 3 H's
10. 1-10 | To the Point: Gratitude for Your Point Man and Team
1. Emotional Awareness: Anger: Naming & Accepting Anger
2. Emotional Awareness: Anger: Responding
3. Emotional Awareness: Anger: Forgiveness
4. Emotional Awareness: Anger: Scripture Study
1. Q&A with David
2. Men's Ministry Overview
3. Spouse Care Ministry Overview
1. Breaking the Shame Leg
2. Shame Cycle - A Word on Self-Soothing

About this course

$36.00 / month
136 lessons
0 hours of video content

Men's Community Membership

Course curriculum

WELCOME TO THE COMMUNITY

ANNOUNCEMENTS

CHECK-IN MEETINGS

HOW TO CHECK IN

COURSE OFFERINGS

FOUNDATIONAL ARTICLES

PRACTICING THE PRESENCE OF GOD

TOOL BOX

POINT MAN INFORMATION

FAQ

CYCLES

PREVENTING RELAPSE PLAN

PREPARING FOR STAGE 1 GROUP

TO THE POINT

EMOTIONAL AWARENESS

AUDIO/VIDEO RESOURCES

OLD STAGE 1 LESSONS

About this course